R.E.S.P.E.C.T.

During college, I took Sociology as an elective class & there's only one point that professor made that stuck with me. 

"People are only in relationships as long as they are getting something."

Isn't that so true?! You only care about the cashier for as long as you are in his/her line.  You only stay friends with people as long as you are getting some sort of perk (i.e. emotional support, professional connecting, financial back-up plan,etc.) It's the same with those we love including our families. 

One can go on and on about respecting those we love, who deserves it, how to give it....but the truth is, we only have interactions with those people if we are getting something from them.  I'll bet that whether you are introverted or extraverted, have a few friends or a ton of "friends"....you can only count on one hand those that you really get things/needs from that you also give those to.  ??? Any input, World?

From the Iphone

My last few weeks have been insane! I have been so blessed in so many ways and like many others in this world, i rarely take time to give credit where it is due. My mother just spent her whole weekend catering to me after i had wisdom teeth removed. Vomitting blood, fevers, and wimpers of pain are not exactly easy to deal with all weekend. My nephew is trying his hardest to do what is right in his life despite a few odds being against him. My last job assignment gave me goodbyes that will forever remain in my heart. The newest "what if" has left me in the dust (not to my surprise). I'm done bloggers. I surrender. I let go of it all. Tomorrow is a new day and should i awaken to live it, live it i shall.

Breaking Point

Everyone has some event in their life where they lose control of a situation which is ending badly and out of desperate attempt to save something they hold dear, they snap.  There's a brief mental black-out where all that matters is that the anger and frustration leave your body or that the message is somehow gotten across another way because verbal expression doesn't seem to be getting anywhere anymore.  That's the point where kids look for guns in the closet,  things that aren't meant are said to an extreme, and where violence and suicide rear their ugly head.  


Something I've been seeing a lot lately is mental health issues and what society does about them.  Oh! We think we're so progressive considering some countries through the handicapped in a closet hidden from life.  Are we really that different? 


I truly hope someone out there in the world will read this blog tonight and absorb the message. Don't isolate someone for coming to a breaking point.  Isolating them only festers awful thoughts and feelings in someone who's already unstable.  I can't imagine what it's like to constantly feel friendless, anxious, sad, physical pain, blocked, scared, nervous, etc.  I can't imagine what it's like to see not only that something taken from me that I held so dear but also to what the ripple effect of my connected world disintegrating around me.  


If anyone you know has issues and is/isn't seeking help for it, please just be open to the idea that they may need you more than you need them.  They may need someone to just listen or be in their corner.  

Whoosh!!

Another assignment has come and gone! LORD ALMIGHTY this has been a test of so many things! These last few weeks have lead me to question my goals, my drive for my career, my financial stability, my patience with my family, my standards towards men, my mind with regards to openness....I have grown as a person. 


Living and learning is never easy.  I'm not sure I'd want it to be.  That being said, at least I have learned a few things.  

*Goodbyes don't have to be bad

*People do remember the good times

*I don't have to stop traveling to find love 

*Love will take me as I am

*There are men out there NOT intimidated by my job

*Accepting a compliment isn't a statement of excessive confidence

*Sometimes I should just let him pay the bill

*Standing up to my morals no matter how uncomfortable makes me human

*respect the elderly for their knowledge and wisdom

*Time to save more money!! 

*Being a good friend means accepting someone for their flaws and all 

*Patience is still something I need to work on

As I pack my bags in this next 2 weeks and say my goodbyes to Camden, AR I truly hope that I left an imprint on someone's life.  The people here have no idea the imprint they have left on me.